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By TetraMap_Admin - July 6, 2020

What if we started acknowledging others for what we see in them, for what we see as their power, for what we observe them 'being' every day? Yet we've never stopped to tell them we've noticed or are grateful for.
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By Mark Brown, Certified TetraMap Facilitator, UK 

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Marianne Williamson. From her book ‘A Return To Love’.

A fellow participant on a training programme that I’m attending shared this passage with me. I was taken aback by its power and that the author seems to be talking to me; it gives me new hope, I just need to unlock my power!

I can’t help but feel that we all need help with finding our power, whether we’ve heard or read this before, I certainly do, and I imagine that I don’t stand alone in this.

What if we started acknowledging others for what we see in them, for what we see as their power, for what we observe them ‘being’ every day but we’ve never stopped to tell them that we’ve noticed or are grateful for it? I don’t mean giving traditional positive feedback, where the reason for telling the receiver is that you want them to repeat their behaviour. It isn’t about what’s in it for the teller, it’s about the insight that the receiver will gain.

Landmark Worldwide (whose vision is: to enable people and businesses throughout the world to realise their full potential) call this ‘Acknowledgement’, and it’s a guiding principle ‘a way of being’ of The Landmark organisation, and it’s graduates. The essence of acknowledgement is to recognise the good in others and share it with them. Saying you’re a ‘super person’ doesn’t go far enough, what is it that makes that person ‘super’ – it needs to be specific?

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Here are some examples:

Acknowledgements could start with:

  • ‘I acknowledge you for your…’

and then go on to define what it is that you’re acknowledging:

  • ‘dedication, humanity, humility…’

then add the context:

  • ‘the manner in which you conduct yourself, within the tireless work that you do in your local community, and the challenges that you face every day – you have never give up or veered off course, even when your funding is threatened as happened yesterday.’
  • ‘you never fail to recognise it’s people that you are working with, like Rosalyn, even when she vehemently disagreed with you, you maintained a human approach and still treated her like the valued person that she is…’
  • ‘when you have successes, like the ‘community group of the year’ it’s never about you and always about your team’.

A contagious community culture 

I am fortunate to have been on the receiving end of such acknowledgements. I work as a volunteer (Assisting Programme) on one of Landmark’s courses, and the community go out of their way to help me see what’s right in me and others. I reciprocate too, not because I feel as though I need to, but because my mind shifts and I see the good in others.

I find it contagious and at the time of writing I’m missing the Landmark environment due to the COVID 19 closure of the centres. Primarily I’m missing the Landmark culture – as a learner I crave constant reminders and the ongoing immersion.

I urge you to try this practice, not because it’ll make you feel better (it will by the way) but because it’ll make another human being feel better about themselves, and ultimately help them to realise their power.

Mark Brown
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Have you seen the film Coach Carter ? Marianne Williamson’s quote is also used in one of my favourite films which reflects the message of Mark’s blog.  

Coach Carter is a 2005 American biographical teen sports drama film based on the true story of Richmond High School basketball coach Ken Carter (played by Samuel L. Jackson), who made headlines in 1999 for suspending his undefeated high school basketball team due to poor academic results.